While you wait, you’re not putting your life on hold or wasting time waiting for something to happen.
Instead, you’re taking all the time and attention that you’ve been projecting outward and turning it inward. That’s one of the most positive, life-affirming choices a person can make. From this perspective, you can finally see that hurling yourself into the path of potentially romantic relationships hasn’t brought you any closer to what you want.
It’s time to try a different approach: letting love and purpose manifest in your life as a result of you working on becoming the best version of yourself.
The Wait is about changing your circumstance from the second type of waiting into the first. Instead of feeling resentful and angry when the pursuit of your desires hits a wall, think, “Okay, since I’m already waiting, I’m going to choose to use this time productively.” Your circumstances haven’t changed, but how you see them certainly has. Just like that, you transform yourself from passive victim into active collaborator with God.
This is what The Wait is not:
God isn’t making you spend time alone as payback for some previous sin.
We understand that not having sex is hard and could make a month feel like a year. But tell us this: What’s the longest time in recent years that you’ve gone without sex against your will—Days? Weeks? Months? Years? Could you do that again, this time because you choose to?
3. Putting your life on hold.
Hardly. Now you have time and bandwidth to work on you. There are definitely times when fast, aggressive action is required to get what you want. You can still practice The Wait while you’re actively going after all God has for you in life.
We want to take the stigma away from waiting. What’s bizarre about valuing yourself, your body, and your God over all else? Especially if you’ve already been through the pain of multiple bad breakups, there’s nothing weird about waiting, no matter what anyone else says.
Most important, The Wait isn’t powerless. Though you might not see it, God has His hand on your life during this time, rearranging the scenery in order to set you up for good things to come.
Now that you know what the Wait is not, it’s time to take action! In the comments below, let me know which of these apply to you and how you plan on making a change TODAY!